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I've said this a billion times all over this site, but just to be blatant let me say it one more time: There's nothing wrong with crossdressing! Really. On some of the other pages on this site I've written to non-crossdressers as my audience, but now I realize I should be telling this to crossdressers, because not all of them realize this. This is the biggest and most common revelation many crossdressers have had when they came to this site or others like it: There's nothing wrong with crossdressing. If anything, it's a good thing, something to be proud of.
Of course this is my opinion; You have to decide for yourself whether or not crossdressing is acceptable to your own set of values. But it's my belief that crossdressing is healthy. I don't know exactly why I do it, but I'm proud to be a member of only a minority of society that realizes that it's ok not to fit into the norm of society. I saw a great bumper sticker yesterday--It said, "Why be normal?" It's my favorite bumper sticker I've ever seen. It says so much in just three words - Why does everyone try to be normal? Why does everyone try to fit in? Why do they care so much about what people think? What is normal? Why are people so scared of people who aren't normal? As Yoda once said, "Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." :-) Acceptance is key--Accepting yourself, and accepting others. If you haven't already, learn to accept yourself and to keep accepting others. It's really ok to be different. Diversity is beautiful.
I read something last week that I'm not sure people will agree with or interpret the same way I did, but I'm going to quote it anyway because it struck me as interesting. It's from The Tao of Physics, by Fritjof Capra, which is practically the bible for me because I'm into both physics and Taoism. At first I worried about copyright infringement, but then I realized if this site ever gets so big that lawyers or even Capra himself see it, I'll be more than happy to remove this quote. But I don't think that'll ever happen. Anyway, this is from the preface to the second edition, pp. 9-13 in the third updated edition.
When I discovered the parallels between the world views of physicists and mystics, which had been hinted at before but was never thoroughly explored, I had the strong feeling that I was merely uncovering something that was quite obvious and would be common knowledge in the future; and sometimes, while writing The Tao of Physics, I even felt that it was being through me, rather than by me. The subsequent events have confirmed these feelings. ...
The success of The Tao of Physics has had a strong impact on my life. During the past years, I have traveled extensively, lecturing to professional and lay audiences and discussing the implications of the 'new physics' with men and women from all walks of life. These discussions have helped me tremendously in understanding the broader cultural context of the strong interest in Eastern mysticism that arose in the West during the last twenty years. I now see this interest as part of a much larger trend which attempts to counter act a profound imbalance in our culture-- in our thoughts and feelings, our values and attitudes, and our social and political structures. I have found the Chinese terminology of yin and yang very useful to describe this cultural imbalance. Our culture has consistently favored yang, or masculine, values and attitudes and has neglected their complementary yin, or feminine, counterparts. We have favored self-assertion over integration, analysis over synthesis, rational knowledge over intuitive wisdom, science over religion, competition over cooperation, expansion over conservation, and so on. This one-sided development has now reached a highly alarming stage; a crisis of social, ecological, moral, and spiritual dimensions.
However, we are witnessing, at the same time, the beginning of a tremendous evolutionary movement that seems to illustrate the ancient Chinese saying that "the yang, having reached its climax, retreats in favor of the yin." The sixties and seventies have generated a whole series of social movements which all seem to go in the same direction. The rising concern with ecology, the strong interest in mysticism, the growing feminist awareness, and the rediscovery of holistic approaches to health and healing are all manifestations of the same evolutionary trend. They all counteract the overemphasis of rational, masculine attitudes and values and attempt to regain a balance between the masculine and feminine sides of human nature. ... In my second book, The Turning Point, I have explored the various aspects and implications of this cultural transformation.
It's such an awesome book and you should all read it. Anyway, I don't know if you know anything about Taoism or believe any of it, or if you'll see this the same way I did, but I saw clear connections between this and crossdressing. Society has over-emphasized the yin, or masculine values and ideas, and has neglected the yang. Perhaps us crossdressers are more balanced spiritually than the rest of society, and have an equal amount of yin and yang while everyone else has too much yin, or maybe we even have too much yang as a reaction to society having too much yin. In any case, I see Capra's point, and I'm glad to be one of only a minority of people in touch with my feminine side. And who knows, maybe this shift back to the yang will also call for a crossdressing revolution. Well I can wish, can't I? :-)
Anyway, like I said before, my point is that I believe that crossdressing is healthy. I know that society would tell you otherwise, and that not a lot of people are comfortable with crossdressing, but that's just because transgendered issues are an ignored and misunderstood topic. Don't worry about them. Let them finally figure out that it's ok to be in touch with your feminine side, and that it's ok to express yourself. Do what you want.
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